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Thankfulness Mondays – Can I Help You?

So it’s week 42 (of 52)  joining Bernadette of Haddon Musings and others, of things large and small, that we have in our lives to be thankful for, in lieu of being overwhelmed by the negative things that sometimes get more notice.

Today I’m thankful for the many offers of help, from friends and family. The older one gets, the harder it is to organize a move.

There are so many details, and the energy and memory doesn’t always allow us to do what we need to. Trying to do it all is just not possible, even if we get movers. It’s all the little things like the De-cluttering that I wrote about, which in itself is trying because there’s some things we’ve kept for sentimental reasons, and now have to decide whether to let them finally go!

Then, trying to remember all the companies and individuals we have to advise of the move. I’ve got so many lists, that I almost have to have a list of the lists ! (pardon the overuse of the word list)

However difficult it is, there are neighbours and relatives and friends who have offered to help in whatever way they can.

And we will accept with gratitude and thankfulness!

❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

Thankfulness Mondays – The Other Half of the Coming Move

Well, I can’t believe it’s week 40 of (52)  posting with Bernadette of Haddon Musings, and others, for things we are thankful for in our lives, to offset negative things that happen around us.

Today I am very thankful, that our house sold last week. We were prepared that it might take a while to sell, and that the first offer would most likely be quite a bit less than we were asking. We also thought about the fact, that when we previously sold, often the buyers would have conditions on their offer such as financing, or possibly having a house themselves to sell.

As I have previously written about, we have moved an unbelievable 13 times, for various reasons. Some of the moves when our children were in school, we kept in the same area so they wouldn’t have to change schools.

Anyway, we had all of these thoughts, and our agent came to present the offer. My husband and I had  agreed on what we would accept. The first thing she told us, was that it was almost a perfect offer. And of course we wondered what she meant.

She told us the details; which were that the buyers offered $900 less that we asked, BUT everything else was perfect. There was no financing to arrange for them, no inspection, and they wanted the same possession date that we did. There were no extra requests from them, except they asked to be able to come and see our home two more times before we moved. Our agent said, it would be done through her though, and we would be asked when it would be convenient.

I had felt a peace when we had taken a chance to sign the lease for the apartment ‘before’ we sold, even though we had unnecessary concerns about how the sale of our home would go.

So today, I am very thankful that the sale of our home, went so smoothly. (Now, to just get the packing done!)

Couple of pictures of the apartment; our new home

 

Hallway

Living Room walk-out to balcony

Kitchen

One of two Bedrooms

 

Thankfulness Mondays – Half Done – Half to Go

Well, here it is Mondays again, posting about the many things we have in our lives to be thankful for. I’m joining with Bernadette from Haddon Musings and this is week 38 of (52).

Today, I’m thankful for the fact that we have found an apartment to move into. That’s half of what we need to do. The other half is actually the tougher half, and that’s to sell our home.

It’s so strange now, that one has to not only DE clutter but also De personalize one’s home to put it on the market. We not only have to clear anything on top of an appliance or table, or in the bathrooms, and find a place to put it, but also take down all pictures of a personal nature.

Apparently most people looking at homes don’t like to see these things, because they can’t then imagine what it will look like with their personal belongings.  In other words, our house has to appear as though it’s almost not lived in.  Another reason for doing all of this, is that when they take photos, they don’t want any distractions in them. We’re allowed to leave the coffee pot, toaster and can opener in the kitchen, but on separate counters of course, one on each.

It’s a bit hard to hide everything, especially when your husband has a habit of buying paper towel, toilet paper, and other items when they’re on sale, in larger quantities. And we have to hide all the cat’s toys and only have one dish of water and food (if we must); and do we need both printers, one that I have and one in my husband’s office?

Oh, and the coat hooks can’t have anything on them, and the shoe tray mustn’t have any shoes or boots in it, and please remove the table cloth so the wood shows. We can put away only so much and find a place for them, many things out in the shed.

Of course we realize, that they have found that this seems to be better in order to sell, and they’re only trying to help us, but it is a challenge to make our home, feel unlived in.

I am thankful, that we will have a very nice place to move into, and it will be less work outside, and time saved spent driving to do various things like shopping, appointments etc; and we will be closer to one of our son’s should we need him.

Now, if only we could sell in a short span of time! We will have to wait and see.

 

Thankfulness Mondays – Little Things Mean a Lot

This is week 36 (of 52) joining Bernadette of Haddon Musings posting of things around us to be thankful for, and to appreciate; things small and large, and to maybe be an influence away from negativity, and toward positivity.

As my husband ‘W’ and I attempt to DE clutter, in order to get ready to put our home up for sale, we’re coming across many items that have survived I believe 12 or 13 moves over what will be in July, 54 years of marriage. Each move had a reason for doing so.

When we married, since we had both moved many times as children, we said we didn’t want to do that. Now here we are planning to move again. When speaking to my daughter this week about this, I noted that at least 4 or 5 of them …maybe 6, were in the same area so our children did not have to change schools often. That’s what was difficult for us as children; starting new schools too many times and being the ‘new kid’.

Anyway, back to sorting things out in order to move, we’re coming across some things that we have to make a decision on. Among them, lots of photos which I sorted through and made packets of some to give to the applicable families. I have some albums which I’ll keep for now; the rest are on our computers.

Then there were books, videos, letters, some special cards, knick knacks, dishes, my mother’s silverware, clothing, etc. etc.

We won’t have the same amount of storage, and so gave a lot away to various thrift stores, and some items to our children and grandchildren. Some we couldn’t give away, because we had emotional ties to them, so our kids will have to decide what to do with those, when the need arises.

What I am thankful for, is that with each thing we look at, it brings with it, memories of times and places, we shared as a family and with friends. While I don’t remember every detail, it did take me back in time and what and who was in our lives then.

I would hope and suppose this will be our last move, because of our ages. We kind of laugh when we say that though. We said it would be our last, many times over.

But I think that this time it will be!

July 1963

July 1963

My husband and I taken in 2015

My husband and I taken in 2015

Stress…What Stress?

Well, you’ve likely heard enough about our ‘move’, so I won’t go into details about it. But what I would like to say something about is the stress of it all.

My husband and I have been married for over 49 years now and we are quite used to each other and our ‘breaking points’. Nevertheless, we had our share of them during this move. Maybe it’s because we were are so very tired and that causes a lot of things to happen. Individually and together we both knew this was a problem but didn’t realize what a toll it really was taking on us.

We would console each other as much as we could when we knew one of us was having a really bad day, but sometimes our frustration would just come to a boiling point. I can remember one of mine was finding out that the day we were supposed to get our telephone, television and internet connected….was not going as planned and we would not have any of them done, probably for a week or more.

It was as though we could have withstood all of the other things that happened during the week prior to moving and moving day, but not having those ‘very necessary’ conveniences….was just too much to take.

I exploded in tears of, I guess frustration but in retrospect it was that we planned for everything but other people were not owning up to their end of the bargain. How dare they? I can remember being so angry I went and lay down and finally fell asleep. When I woke up I didn’t really want to get up and face all the looming things that still had to be done. My husband just puttered around during this time and let me have my little ‘temper tantrum’…because that’s what it was.

Later that night as I was sitting down, I realized that this was NOT the end of the world. So we wouldn’t have our routine back for a little while. So my blogging would just have to have a break. So we wouldn’t have a telephone for awhile or the television programs we felt were just so necessary to be watching. So it would take us longer than we wished it would to get unpacked and settled. We I was just going to have to accept it and make the most of it.

So, while we are even now…not settled in and everything unpacked and we are both very tired, we are a ‘together tired’. We both understand any move…but especially one when you’re a senior and not as quick to recover from the stress of it, indeed can take it’s toll.

But it’s okay and we’re okay! And maybe that is a lesson that we needed to be reminded of!

It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. (Deuteronomy 31:8)

Absent Without Leave

This is a very short note to say that with moving and all the details that have to be looked after, I will be absent quite a bit in the blogging arena for the next couple of weeks.

So, if I’m not able to get to reading very much or commenting, it doesn’t mean you’re not in my thoughts.

We’re away for the next three days and I won’t have my computer at all. Boy will that seems strange. So take care and I’ll try to catch up ‘some’ when I get back.

I should mention that I and many of you prayed that our house would not take too long to sell and the Lord certainly heard and answered as it sold completely and ‘firm’ in three weeks. But the buyers needed early closing at the end of October, so that’s why everything is so rushed right now. As some of you know we are really down-sizing and so have to determine what we can keep and how to dispose of what we can’t.

Take care!……Diane

If in Doubt Throw it Out…No Wait Give it Away

As I wrote in a recent post my husband and I are moving and we’re downsizing ….no wait a minute we’re DOWNSIZING!

We’re going from a semi-detached bungalow with basement and lots of storage which we utilize to the fullest…to a Mobile Home with virtually no storage and definitely no basement. It was this or an apartment for which we were not prepared to go into right now. With an apartment, there is no outside property and we would really miss that, especially my husband who loves to make gardens and care for them. Some of you know that I have M.S. so while I enjoy his gardens, I can’t really work in them.  There is also a deck which we can enjoy outside in the summertime.

Now for the hard part. After collecting odds and ends for a lot of years, we now have to determine what to do with them. Even the excess furniture that will not fit into our new home has to be given away or sold.

How does one determine in doing this purge, what we can do without either for logical reasons or for emotional reasons. Pictures I will of course not discard but what about some of my children’s or grand-children’s beautiful artwork they made in kindergarten that has had a place somewhere in all of the houses we’ve been? I may have to find a box and keep it as I don’t know if I could throw it in the garbage. Knowing my children, they are not ’emotional’ enough to want to take it and keep it themselves.

Now for closet space! The closets are very small and I have too many clothes….however I started getting ruthless and if I haven’t worn it for a year or more or it does not fit me at my current size, it is going to a shop that sells second-hand clothing where the funds go to a charity.  I’ve already packed about 3 or 4 bags with such clothing and my husband has done the same…maybe not so many bags as what I have though.

The next challenge is books. While I don’t read or re-read all the ones that I have…never-the-less they are in cabinets and on shelves everywhere in the house.  Oh and the old Reader’s Digest books from long ago that take up space on another shelf. Maybe I can find some Nursing Home or possibly the library, that will take some books but I probably won’t find a place to take the Reader’s Digest books. Hospitals and Doctor’s offices don’t put them out anymore because I guess old magazines and books are considered germ laden. While I hate to think of throwing any out I may be left with no other alternative.

While we will have a very large shed when we move to store some things like Christmas decorations and such, even they will have to be limited. It sometimes seems like we are changing more than just our address, when I think of all the limitations we are placing on ourselves.

It’s not that we haven’t thought this out but when it comes down to the nitty-gritty of actually making these decisions I’m finding it a bit overwhelming at times.

I am aware that there are many who have had to live with bare necessities in their lives and not by choice. We are making the decision because we want to, and there is a difference of that I am sure.

The most important fact of this move is not  ‘the things’  we cannot take with us but the fact that we will be together, and closer to our family….and people are far more important than ‘things’ are anytime!