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Thankfulness Mondays – An Early Search, and Find

Week 49 (of  52) joining with Bernadette of Haddon Musings and other bloggers, posting each week of something in our lives to be thankful for, whether small or large;  hoping while doing so it will offset some negative areas and perhaps encourage some others along the way.

Today I’m thankful for something frivolous. While in a shopping mall this week not really intending to look for it, I decided to go into a couple of stores that were there, because the malls around where we live, don’t have these particular stores.

It’s not that I needed to get it yet, as I don’t until October, but just thought I’d have a little look. So the first store that I went into, that I thought  would have a good selection of gowns, in fact had very little choice. Of course when you’re being very specific I wasn’t sure about finding the ‘one’ I was looking for.

Lo and behold, the second shop I went into, had many to choose from, and there on the rack I found exactly the right one; at least in my mind. It was the exact colour, length and had a little bolero top to cover the shoulders and upper arms. If you know about women over 70, you might understand why I would want a little bolero or little jacket.

The dress is for our first grandson, in fact the first grandchild to be married, in October. Now you know why I really didn’t need to really be looking yet. I so look forward to him and his beautiful fiancée, being married and starting their life as husband and wife. I pray for them, that they will accept the best and the worst… and that they do love and cherish each other as they go through their life together.

Anyway, I am excited that I found my dress, and so look forward to their coming marriage.

The pictures I’m putting up were actually from the store’s online website, ( as I had to put mine in for alterations. I’m only 5 feet tall and clothes I buy are always too long). I have to say the pictures don’t  do the dress justice. It is, in actuality a shimmering grey, with sequins.

 Of course, I don’t have a figure like the model does, but I am so happy and thankful to have found it, and on sale!

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She’s Adorable and She’s Gone Home

Nanny with Rylee

Well, it’s been a long time since I have been in the company of a small child for more than a couple of hours. But for a week my husband and I had the company of our great-granddaughter and her mother, our granddaughter.

Because it’s been awhile I had forgotten that a 4-year-old just enjoys every minute of every day. She never stopped.  Before she came I made sure that I visited our ‘Dollar Store’ to pick up some various things that might interest her. I bought some crayons, coloring book, play doh, word and picture game, clock and time cards etc. We brought up a little table and stool from the basement so she had her own place to play.

When she arrived, she was a bit shy with us as in her 4 years we’ve only seen her 2 or three times a year probably. I was hoping during the few days she was with us, we would get a chance to ‘bond’ a little.

It wasn’t long before she was sitting at the little table and wanting to do everything at once almost. First the play doh for a time and then wanting to know what everything else was.  And so I would explain and go through the time cards, and the word cards etc. If I had forgotten that a small child wants to repeat everything over and over again, I was soon reminded.

She watched some cartoons and played on her little electronic learning game she has. I was astounded (shouldn’t have been) at the fact this little girl was already introduced to an electronic gadget. But I guess it’s a sign of the times!

We took them to our local ‘ribfest’ where she went on a few rides…I had to go on one with her as her Mom couldn’t. Oh and a little temporary tattoo of the little Mermaid.

The next day we went to the ‘Donkey Rescue Farm’ where we met 30 or so donkeys that had been rescued from abuse by the wonderful Christian lady who operates it totally by herself and relies on private individual donations.

On the following  day we went to a small community that has an old-fashioned 1920’s merry-go-round complete with the musical organ that was original also.

We didn’t go too many other places other than our beach where she played in the sand and water for hours. Her Mom took her there another day too by herself, as she really liked the beach and the park area. Oh, and we had bought her a new beach towel with you guessed it…’Justin Bieber’s’ picture on it which brought forth quite a cute smile on her little face!

I had forgotten how many questions a 4-year-old asks or the things they say that are so innocent and cute. It was so special to have this time. I guess the next time we see them will be around Christmas but I look forward to it.

She’s adorable and we love her so much, but she’s gone home, and while I did enjoy so much having her and her Mom visit, my husband and I realized that we enjoy our quiet lifestyle and couldn’t have kept up the pace for too much longer…...We’re ‘pooped’ for lack of another word!!!!!

BE GOOD AND BE SAFE

It was wonderful being a parent when our children were growing up. Of course it came with the aches and pains of any growth. During the early years it was a matter of protecting them and providing for them, not only with food and housing but also with a sense of who they were and how important they were as individuals in our eyes, others’ eyes and of course their worth in God’s eyes. Of course discipline was part of those early years also. And yes, we did spank our children. Note that I said spank and not beat. When they were just learning obedience a small slap on the hand or their bottom was all that was given.

Their teenage years I guess were the most tumultuous and keeping them safe and watching not only the other kids they hung around with, but also trying to instill in them a sense of morals… yes…right and wrong. We tried to teach them to value themselves and to be responsible for their behaviour. Unlike some parents, we decided to forgo being their friend and opted for the parent role. We felt we couldn’t do justice trying to be both. There were many times I personally wished I could have been a friend because then I wouldn’t have to worry about them being cross with me when I had to ground them for some reason. There were various reasons for this such as not doing homework, coming home late, talking in a disrespectful manner etc.

There were times that came close to a ‘friendship’, when thing would go wrong for them in their lives…perhaps with their friend or someone they liked not liking them back. It was then I dropped a little of the parent role, although some of the advice whether taken or not was as a mother and not a friend. We developed a trust between our children and us. Sometimes trust had to be earned back if it was tarnished a bit because of an earlier break. Our teenagers tried to sometimes push their luck a little and go into forbidden territory but eventually we came to a truce.

I remember being very concerned about them drinking during those years. In order to discourage it we would take them to the party they were going to, asking previously for the telephone number, and then we would pick them up even if it was somewhat inconvenient for us, because we didn’t want them to have to figure out a way to get home. It didn’t matter that they were boys or if it was our daughter. We just wanted them home safe.That is not to say they did not try to drink, as I would be a fool to think that, but it was kept in control and there were never serious issues with it.

Now, they are all grown and have children, including teenagers of their own. I would like to think that they will react in somewhat the same way we did, because I think my husband and I did one heck of a good job raising three wonderful children. Now we sit back and watch as their children grow and they take on the same task. With our sons, actually their children have now passed those tenuous years, and are fine young people trying to make their way into the world.

Our daughter and husband are just entering those unnerving years, but I have no doubt based on how their two boys are now, that they are most certainly handling their job well.

It is nice though to just watch and have those years done with. I like being a grandmother!!!