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Thankfulness Mondays – “In Their Thoughts!”

Week 48 (of 52)…… I’ve been posting along with Bernadette of Haddon Musings and others, of the many things in our lives we have to be thankful for, sometimes they are small and may go unnoticed, and other times they can be very obvious. We hope that by doing so, it may offset for us and others, the negative areas in our lives.

Today I’m thankful for those in my life, who I know are available when I need advice, prayer or when I just need to realize that I am in their thoughts.

It is important not only for me but I believe many, when there is an area of concern in our lives; that someone makes us aware that they care and are willing to listen. Sometimes that’s all that is necessary. Actually since I first mentioned that my husband and I were moving, and the various issues and concerns I had, people were so kind to offer their support. There were friends, family and those in the blogging community who all made the move easier, by their help and their encouragement.

Since the move I have been very tired and not feeling as well, as I’d like,  but I know ‘this too shall pass’. When we get overwhelmed it is so easy to let the issue ‘mushroom’ in our minds, but when there are those who we can ‘vent’ to, and just express our frustrations and feelings, the problem is then put back into perspective.

We  can then re-focus and realize we just need to take one day at a time.

So today, I am very thankful for those who keep me in their thoughts, and who have offered to listen, to encourage and to let me know they care! That is most definitely many of ‘you’. !!!

Thankfulness Mondays – Can I Help You?

So it’s week 42 (of 52)  joining Bernadette of Haddon Musings and others, of things large and small, that we have in our lives to be thankful for, in lieu of being overwhelmed by the negative things that sometimes get more notice.

Today I’m thankful for the many offers of help, from friends and family. The older one gets, the harder it is to organize a move.

There are so many details, and the energy and memory doesn’t always allow us to do what we need to. Trying to do it all is just not possible, even if we get movers. It’s all the little things like the De-cluttering that I wrote about, which in itself is trying because there’s some things we’ve kept for sentimental reasons, and now have to decide whether to let them finally go!

Then, trying to remember all the companies and individuals we have to advise of the move. I’ve got so many lists, that I almost have to have a list of the lists ! (pardon the overuse of the word list)

However difficult it is, there are neighbours and relatives and friends who have offered to help in whatever way they can.

And we will accept with gratitude and thankfulness!

❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

Thankfulness Mondays – Whew !

This is Week 28 (of 52) posting with Bernadette of Haddon Musings  for things to be thankful for in our lives to offset the negative areas we face in the world each and every day.

While I love this Christmas time of the year with all that is entailed in it I am thankful to get back into the routine of daily living.

I love the decorations, the writing of Christmas cards, shopping for a gift for our loved ones…. and of course the realization of Christ’s birth. I’ve noticed that the later generations don’t send cards much anymore. I suppose with the electronic age of computers, phones and Ipads, greetings are sent that way. I know it’s the thought that counts, but to me, I still love getting a card in the mail box. It also costs quite a bit to mail them, but old habits and traditions are hard to change, at least as long as I am able.

All of that together, with the extra visiting of friends and family, it does take a toll. I suppose more so as we get older. I don’t remember being this tired during our younger age.

So the tree is down, everything back in place; leftover turkey in the fridge, and things are back to normal. While I don’t know what the next year will hold, I will move on and meet the challenges ahead with God’s help.

I wish you all blessings in 2017!   (Diane)

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Christmas Day (night) curled up on the couch, a little tired but happy to have spent with family in the States

 

Thankfulness Mondays – Forever Friends!

This is a post participating with Bernadette from Haddon Musings on Mondays, of things large and small we have to be thankful for, hoping the feelings may be contagious and spread.

Today I’m going to a friend’s place for a few days. She lives 4 hours away, so we really only get together once a year, but we always have such a special time.  We talk and laugh and eat… and talk and laugh and eat! We maybe watch one or two movies, or go for a walk.

We worked together for a number of years,  but actually only reconnected about 6 or 7 years ago through Facebook!

The time we spend together is so great and it’s like only yesterday we were working in the same office. There are memories (at least as far as what I can recall). But what I can’t, she can! I guess there are many that have friendships like this; people that we can totally be ourselves with.

So this post is very short, but just to say I’m very thankful for friends that make me feel so very blessed.

Taken a few years ago of the two of us, soon after we reconnected..

Taken a few years ago of the two of us, soon after we reconnected..

Thankfulness Mondays – ‘Smile’ !

Today is a day I join Bernadette  (Haddon Musings)  by  posting on Mondays, of something to be thankful about, in lieu of recognizing how very much we need to promote good things in our lives,  with  the hope that by doing so it might spark others to do so as well.

As I sit in my living room there are many pictures that I look at each and every day. Photos of loved ones.

Each one takes me back to the time when it was taken, reminding me of the various special moments in my life, and my husband’s. There are snapshots of our parents, our children and our grandchildren… oh and of one great-grandchild. Pictures of special friends and beloved pets, are also in view.

I have several photo and scrapbooking albums that I often look at too. I’m glad that prior to putting all pictures on an electronic device, there are some that are not! I would caution some of the younger generation to take the time to actually print out some of their pictures and put them in an album. There will be times in the future where it may not be possible to go onto a computer or other device. I also find it different to scan through photos this way, and not be able to pause and reflect on each one. It’s not the same!

It must make one wary to have all photos on a computer. We all know that there is the possibility of them all being lost, if there are technical issues.

So, today I am thankful that we can be reminded of all the special moments in our life, because of the ability to take pictures and to recall them each time we look at them.

So, as though I am ready to take your picture……..  ‘SMILE’….

Picture of my Mother and I on my wedding day. A picture I cherish!

Picture of my Mother and I on my wedding day. A picture I cherish!

 

 

Those Days and Weeks After…………….

M & J at their 50th Anniversary party a few years ago

M & J at their 50th Anniversary party a few years ago

A & R taken a couple of years ago

A & R taken a couple of years ago

Some of you who follow will know that there have been two close family members who have died in the past few months. One of them “J” was my sister M’s husband, and the other, one of my nieces  “A” who was just 52.

There are also other bloggers who have had to deal with losses of their husband in the past couple of years, and even others with close family or friends.

There have been many losses that have occurred in my lifetime; the older you get there are bound to me more…. I’m the last of 10 children in our family; and I have seen 5 siblings succumb to cancer and 2 to other causes. My mother’s passing though it was over 25 years ago was such a tremendous loss, as we were so close.

I guess the purpose of this post, is to serve perhaps as a reminder that those who are hurting the most, with the loss of a loved one, need to know that all the comfort and support given during the week or so with visiting, phone calls and then the memorial service, will be sustained in the days, weeks and even months ahead.

There is no ‘level of grief, but in the case of a husband, wife, partner, child, or other close family member, the need is the greatest I believe. It’s so easy and even perfunctory to offer support and anything that will be needed in the days following the service. The words are said so easily, and are meant sincerely at the time, but following through is another thing. I guess most people think that the person grieving, will call if they need help or support, and of course then we will help……….. but will we always do that…….. can we always do that?

From my observations, it is very difficult for that person to call and ask for support or help. Sometimes they just want to cry or talk about the ways in which they miss the person, the things they loved about the person. In some cases they don’t want to feel like the ‘fifth wheel’ .. the odd one out, when they feel like getting out with others that may all be ‘couples’.

With that in mind I have been trying to be there for my sister since ‘J’ passed away… and also it came to my mind last night to call my nephew “R”  who just lost his wife. I think it’s common perhaps to have the first thought, that maybe they won’t want to talk; maybe they’ll feel we’re intruding in their grief and they’d rather just be left alone. But when he answered the phone he was so glad I’d called, and he did speak of some of the ways and reasons he missed his wife so much… little things but important to him. He said he’d come by in the next while, when he was in the area; he lives about an hour away.

Anyway, I’m just sharing some thoughts as I do

As an aside; I’m still not back fully to blogging because of still some issues that we’re dealing with for which I hope will all resolve, and trying to spend more time with ‘M’ right now when she most needs it. I’m so sorry that I’m not caught up reading your posts…. I hope to soon!   …………………. Diane

DP “Last Words”

Prompt: You have the chance to write one last post on your blog before you stop blogging forever. Write it.

This prompt is an old one, so I won’t link it, but I did keep it because I thought I might do it at some future time.

I thought that this was actually a chance to write a ‘last post’, in case at some point I don’t actually get the chance to do so.  Maybe I’m feeling vulnerable, or with the recent passing of my brother-in-law, understanding that we don’t and can’t know the future.

So, with all that said I would like to say that since beginning with WordPress in November 2011, I have had so many surprises, in what actually is and has been involved. Having only heard that funny word ‘blogging’ once or twice before, and with trepidation trying to follow instructions on just how to begin, it has been an amazing journey.

That very first post that I did and really never understanding or believing how I  would ever connect with anyone else. Who, I thought would ever come across my blog and actually read it? Maybe I thought at some point one or two might accidentally come across it, but never did I think that hundreds would. Though my followers’ stats are over 700, we know that many come and go and likely never even read a post, but simply follow for their own reasons. Just to know however, that several hundreds have at least passed through, and some further bloggers who perhaps read and ‘like’ one or two posts but then don’t return. But that’s alright! There are some who come and stay. They might not read everything I write, because I do so on various topics and not every post will appeal every time.

I have met such wonderful people through blogging; caring, supportive, enlightening, thought-provoking and some who have become close friends. Some of you I would really love to meet, though I most likely never will. Maybe it’s better anyway, because we have many friendships in life and relate to in different ways; so maybe blogging is the connection in our case.

So, if I never get to write that ‘good-bye post’, at least you will know if these were the last words I wrote,  how special my time with all of you ‘is/was’.

To quote Bob Hope (those of you who may remember him)….. “Thanks for the memories”

“For reading what I write,

For making my day bright,

For ‘liking’ even though

It maybe wasn’t so,

For ‘following’ me too

No matter what I do!”

“I thank you, so much”

Diane xx