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Thankfulness Mondays – “Thank You”

It’s week 51 (of 52) that I and others joined Bernadette of ‘Haddon Musings’, posting and being aware of many things to be thankful for in our lives. Unfortunately Bernadette very recently has had to pull away from blogging, due to a very emotional time in her life. She will be losing her son, who has been ill for many years. There may be other bloggers, if you follow her link, that you might like to read.

This is the second to last post, based on this topic, and I would like to tell you how thankful I am for those who follow me. I have always tried to read the posts of those I follow, but lately because of the challenges in my life, it has been very difficult to do. In retrospect, t seems as though the past few years have been wrought with different types of difficulties.

I know that we all have them and usually we grow stronger as we go through them. If I re-read many of my blogs, there were estrangements, grieving the loss of loved ones, worrying about issues in our lives, or illnesses of those we care about, or things we are experiencing  ourselves. I do indeed write about them, as it helps me to do so.

Support and love has always been offered and given by many. Sometimes (a lot of times actually)… I feel I’ve taken much more than  personally  I’ve given.

So for you, my very kind, supportive, understanding blogging friends, thank you for listening, for thoughts, prayers, and for the patience that you’ve shown when I’m not able to keep up with your blogs, your needs, your concerns.

Right now, I’m just waiting for some answers, and often just tired.

I fully expect to be looking back at this time, and to realize that it was just ‘life’… all of it; and it will only make me appreciate and emphasize the fullness and joy that overrides all the difficulties.

So again I say thank you for your understanding and indulgence…… I will of course be trying to keep up as much as possible.

Romans 8 vs. 37

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

 

Reality… That’s Life !

Hi, I haven’t been very active during the past couple of months, as those who follow me likely know. I’m going to try to start posting again at least with some regularity, but probably only a couple of times a week… I’ll just have to see. I have missed the contact and interaction with my blogging friends. Hopefully, I’ll get caught up also with what’s going on with all of you.

Last night I was just thinking about the challenges in life, as we all have them…. but that’s life isn’t it? The reality of living brings with it so many things. The challenges or problems or whatever word you want to use, also brings many blessings too. I don’t like to dwell on the negative aspects, without realizing that all of what happens in our lives brings us to where we are today.

Being retired and getting older gives one a perspective on the earlier years that have passed. Sometimes, I just want to tell those younger, not to spend time on worrying about how much money they think they need, or the size of their house or all the ‘things’ of life. I want to tell them that people, relationships, hope, forgiveness and really communicating with the ones they love; is where they will find their treasures.

Recently, when we were in the emergency department of the hospital, the nurse who was giving my husband an ECG asked how long we had been married, and when my husband said 52 years, she asked what she thought was the main reason was that he thought made it last. My husband said that quite simply was hard work; that the couples of today have difficulties instead of trying and working at it, they simply feel there is someone else maybe who they won’t have any problems with, and they just give up and move on! Of course nine times out of ten, they will still have similar issues. I don’t think there is ever a ‘perfect’ marriage. When I am asked the same question, my answer is usually that there are two main (not only) but main traits that are important; forgiveness and communication. Maybe that sounds too simplistic and of course there are a lot of things that are necessary, but when I recall certain times of friction in our marriage, those two things were lacking somewhere… at least for a time. Being Christian also, does not automatically create the always loving and ideal person…. we’re broken and frail, just like everyone else; the only difference is that while God doesn’t deal with perfect people…. because they’re aren’t any, He loves us anyway!

Well, in order not to make this too long for the first real post in a while, I’ll leave it there. Hoping to get back into the swing of things again, even slowly but surely.

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I Cannot Disappear

I cannot disappear, as though I was not here

There’s people who depend, on prayers that I must send

It would be easier to go, but I wish it were not so

For easier it would be, just to try and see

If they could make it without me!

Oh God that you might take,  but never to forsake

This woman who is tired, and who has a heart’s desire

To just leave the world alone, but knowing I must atone

For thoughts like this that come, not all the time but some

Heaven has no hurts or sorrow, For just one day I’d like to borrow

And bring to my soul and heart, peace that never would depart.

But you don’t promise rain won’t fall, on only some but all

So your children must remain, until the day that you ordain

The day for us to share, your kingdom without cares

Now before any conclusion is drawn from a somewhat disheartened poem, it’s only that sometimes when there seems to be many things that pile up in one’s mind, that to imagine not having them….. if only for a time; seems very inviting.  Maybe there are others who sometimes feel this; maybe not. I don’t think denying it will make it not so for me and so………….

I write what I feel!

Tomorrow is another day, and challenges lay ahead and I will face them as I ought to do.  I guess that this has just been a tiring day, with many thoughts…..    Diane

 

 

A Time To Rant and a Time to Be Still

Yesterday I wrote a post about the frustrations of recent, and challenges in technology regarding our recent purchase of two computers.. mine and my husband ‘W’s. I guess that it wasn’t so unusual to do, but I had some thoughts about it.

Almost immediately after writing it I realized that it may have served some purpose to rant and ‘get it all out’ so to speak, but did it really?

It occurred to me that I made a ‘molehill’ into a ‘mountain’. I gave this issue too much importance in my life. The thought came to me that if for some reason I lost all my data on my computer it was not the end of the world. It is frustrating and tiresome to go through all that I did… (or still am), but this information contained in my computer only came into being when I got it perhaps 6 years ago.. I don’t really remember right now how long I’ve had it. Six years are not a lifetime…. I’ve lived almost 69 years.

If I never retrieved that 6 years of data, it would not matter one iota. The only thing I might regret losing are my pictures stored there. But even those do not mean that my life was not full or that somehow I couldn’t exist without them. That thought was confirmed today when we went to Church and found one of the members had a fire rip through not only their home but their Bed and Breakfast and everything they owned….everything!

Does that mean they should give up and be destroyed by that fact? They certainly might feel like they are but they will go on…what other choice is there? Their lives were at risk and they barely escaped with smoke inhalation. In fact some had to be rescued by others before even the fire department got there.

My life will also go on whether or not our computers can totally be restored to what they were. I’ll likely do a blog when things get sorted out, but in the meantime I will look at the blessings in my life and I will try to remember what I just said, in the event life throws something else our way.

I will remember that in my 69 years I have a lifetime of memories, and I will give thanks to God for all that I have…… Diane

 

 

Trifecta – Perpetual Change

Challenge: To use the word ‘pluck” (transitive verb)

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. Your response must be between 33 and 333 words.
• You must use the 3rd definition of the given word in your post.
• The word itself needs to be included in your response.

 3: to move, remove, or separate forcibly or abruptly <plucked the child from the middle of the street>

It occurred to me that it doesn’t matter how old or young or whatever age we are at; there is always change happening in our lives. It is perpetual. It is never-ending.

We hope that the changes that come into our lives will be positive. I don’t believe anyone consciously or sub-consciously asks for negative situations to happen, at least it is not the usual  way to want to live.

As I look back in my life and each stage; as a child, as a teenager, as a young married mother, into the ‘middle age’ era, and now in my senior years; each part of my life has had its’ challenges, its’ sorrows, and its’ joys. Some of those challenges for me were very difficult. There was the ever-returning depression that invaded my life and affected of course those loved ones close to me, and then the diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis.

I suppose that I expected that when I entered this phase of my life, it would be so relaxing and easy, but alas there are issues that arise in our age group as well. I don’t mean to sound all doom and gloom because the joys have far out-weighed any challenge.  It is however a time still of stress and sadness, because of someone who we brought into this world,  for a time has removed them-self from a relationship with us. It matters not what the reason, but in this period of time,  it is still an example of the fact we are not immune to perpetual change.

It is a time when I wish God would pluck this situation from us and give us a time of peace and respite.  I pray and many others have offered prayer and good thoughts,  for this to occur.

I therefore hold on to ‘hope’ because I know,  it will happen. Love will prevail.

A Week to Remember

So after leaving on the 22nd of July until yesterday, the 29th it has been truly a week to remember!

It was a 5 hour flight that would take my husband ‘W’ and I to Aruba to celebrate 50 years of marriage. This was a trip that had been planned for some time and the memories will last for a lifetime. From the time we landed we were in a state of ‘awe’. The weather was so wonderful at between 85 and 90 each day, and not a drop of rain. The view of the Sea and the landscape and grounds was overwhelmingly beautiful. Sometimes we would just sit and take it all in. The hotel we stayed was beyond what we have ever stayed at, but this was a special occasion. It helped that we went in the ‘off season’ because the rates were considerably less. It was an all-inclusive holiday so we had no cost other than spending money. We did make an exception and did give a token gift to some of the workers that we met on a daily basis such as the housekeeping lady who was in her 60’s and worked 6 days a week.

To recap just a bit, at the airport somehow we got into the wrong line and went to go to the back of the right one but a gentleman told us to go ahead of him and we accepted with thanks as my legs are weak when I have to stand for a long time due to the M.S.  He was one of 8 people in their family who were also going to the same hotel as we were.  We mentioned while we were in line that we were celebrating our 50th anniversary and he asked what we learned after that time. I think I said something along the lines of love of course, but then communication, patience and forgiveness. We saw them at the hotel several times and chatted, and they were gracious in joining us for dinner on our anniversary. They also took some pictures and we exchanged email addresses to keep in touch and for them to send us the photos that they took. They were very special people and we were so blessed to have met them.

The week went by quickly of course, but by the end of it we were ready to go home.  We arrived home and were picked up by our oldest son at the airport and went for supper and then to our home.

After any vacation it is evident that ‘reality’ must be faced, and for me that is something that I have some challenges with. The joy of the time away is then mixed with the situation that is still ongoing and for which is very troubling, but I shall strive to retain a balance and not lose sight of the blessings that I have in my life.

I’m going to give you a glimpse into our time away with a few photos. Thanks to so many who have been and continue to be an encouragement and support for me.

Oh, and I have a lot of catching up to do …at least as much as possible as there’s about 300 plus notifications awaiting me….

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DP Challenge – Bedtime Stories

Prompt: What was your favorite book as a child? Did it influence the person you are now?

As a small child of course there were the Cinderella and Snow White kind of story but when I became old enough to read for myself I remember the ‘Nancy Drew’ mystery books.

What I remember is that I enjoyed reading  these mystery books. They were certainly far-fetched if you think about it, because she was only a teenager and yet was a super sleuth. But isn’t that what fiction is all about; the unknown and seemingly impossible sometimes. These stories were woven to capture the imagination of a child and they did that for me.

They perhaps did have an impact or influence on the type of personality I have. I have a very searching mind and love to solve problems and challenges. In fact the most important job that I had was just that. I was given the job of searching for answers to mistakes or perhaps questions to be answered of a difficult nature. I was so determined to find the solution and would not cease until I had done so. It is my nature to do this even today.

Blogging in itself has been such a challenge as many times issues have arisen over the past 16 months that I have been blogging. There has been much appreciated assistance of course from other bloggers during some of these times.  When searching myself with WordPress I have not always been able to find the solution without a lot of time and effort. I am relentless until I find the answer, often taking much time. Because I have some cognitive difficulties having Multiple Sclerosis,  I find it does take much longer than perhaps it could.  When I am successful, I do write things down for future reference because I know that I wouldn’t remember probably the next time, especially if it were very complex.

The type of books that I read, (when I do) and the types of programs that I prefer to watch are often ones where there is a mystery involved. I love the re-runs and DVD series of ‘Murder She Wrote’ and ‘Columbo’ and ‘Diagnosis Murder’ and ‘Perry Mason’. These are some programs of several years ago and many will not even know of them. They were not of a gruesome nature that some of the popular programs today are.

Just in living,  if there is some kind of problem I usually rack my ‘little gray cells’ to try to determine what can be done to alleviate the issue for myself or even others close to me. At times I’m like a dog with a bone, who doesn’t want to give it up, but I have learned through experience and maybe just some wisdom gained with age, that I cannot solve all of life’s problems.

So while I love a good mystery or challenge the years of facing and seeing many challenges, I have had to relax somewhat my ‘super sleuth Nancy Drew’ nature and let what will be, just be!