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Thankfulness Mondays – Can I Help You?

So it’s week 42 (of 52)  joining Bernadette of Haddon Musings and others, of things large and small, that we have in our lives to be thankful for, in lieu of being overwhelmed by the negative things that sometimes get more notice.

Today I’m thankful for the many offers of help, from friends and family. The older one gets, the harder it is to organize a move.

There are so many details, and the energy and memory doesn’t always allow us to do what we need to. Trying to do it all is just not possible, even if we get movers. It’s all the little things like the De-cluttering that I wrote about, which in itself is trying because there’s some things we’ve kept for sentimental reasons, and now have to decide whether to let them finally go!

Then, trying to remember all the companies and individuals we have to advise of the move. I’ve got so many lists, that I almost have to have a list of the lists ! (pardon the overuse of the word list)

However difficult it is, there are neighbours and relatives and friends who have offered to help in whatever way they can.

And we will accept with gratitude and thankfulness!

❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

Daily Prompt – Young at Heart

Prompt: What are your thoughts on aging? How will you stay young at heart as you get older?

Since I’m already a Senior I’m looking at the question in the present and not the future. Mind you I am still aging so I will get older. The years of raising children and working outside the home have passed.

Now, my husband and I enjoy having time to do things at our convenience for the most part, so we don’t need to clock-watch. Sometimes it feels strange watching the busyness of those around us and we do remember.

I always had hoped I would age gracefully, because when you’re young somehow you tend to envision that you will be well, and the ills of growing old only happen to others and not to you. However, the reality often is that by the time you’ve reached 65 your body will start to remind you that you’re not able to do all or even part of what you did in your 30’s, 40s, and even 50’s. Some of us unfortunately,  may acquire a debilitating disease before we reach retirement age. In my case M.S; in other cases something different. If you don’t fall into that segment of society, then you need ‘only’ deal with aging.

If you keep your activity level up, it will I suppose slow down the ‘growing old’ process. And if you work full-time outside the home, you would be wise to take time to hold on to an interest or hobby. It will serve you well, when all of a sudden you’re not going out to work, and there is an emptiness of sorts… time to fill in with something else.

To keep ‘young at heart’ is kind of easy, because inside I don’t feel old. Sure there are aches and pains and health concerns; but I still feel ‘young’ inside. I listen to music of the era when I was growing up. Some of you may shudder, but it was the time for ‘rockin’ and rollin’. Perhaps some of the music was silly and didn’t make a lot of sense…. like ‘Hound Dog’…. Rock Around the Clock’…. ‘Tutti Fruiti’….. ‘Peggy Sue’ and more,  but it’s the music that brings back memories and I feel young again.

So I guess I’m not growing old as gracefully as I’d like to, but I don’t entertain the thought that I’d like to be young again, as each age brought its’ own challenges … and I wouldn’t want to go back and through them again. Along with the challenges of course, there were always blessings in abundance.

So, even though I’m not young age wise, I am young at heart.

How Long Ago Was It?

Every so often I revisit in my mind, what it was like to be young and carefree as a child. I would suppose that I’m not unique in doing so, especially with perhaps the older generation of folk. As I have aged, as we all must do we face challenges of many kinds. If we’re fortunate we meet them at each stage of our life and we don’t do it alone.  I know there are those who perhaps do have to do it without much help and are stronger for it. My mother was one, who while she did have a loving mother until her death in her 40’s, once married at the tender age of 15 she had more mountains to climb than most had.

Certainly I have been more fortunate in my life. I guess it’s just one of those moments when I am feeling my age, and remembering when it was different… and that seems like a long time ago.

Rylee fishing April 2012How long ago was it

When I ran and played

With abandon

And no cares to make me sad

Summers spent playing hide ‘n seek

And the best I ever had

With winters always came

Tobogganing and sleds

And the little skates

That Santa gave

Brought laughter and much joy

And memories to save

It seem that it’s a lifetime

Although I know it’s not

I guess that aging brings with it

The longing of those days

When worries were naught

That’s what life then portrays….

And then it is Winter

I received this email and because I could identify with much of it, I decided to post it. For many of you ‘winter’ has not yet arrived but it is worth pondering I think.

AND THEN IT IS WINTER

Life with my mate…. In a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went.

I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is… the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting grey…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change…

Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be. Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!!

But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…its over. A new adventure will begin!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.

So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not!

You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!

I May Be Old But…..

I‘ve been thinking just lately about the fact that I am getting old(er). Maybe because it’s my birthday next week, and when our birthdays  come around no matter how old or young you are, you know that you’re one year older.

When you are young you’re excited because often it means that perhaps you’ll be allowed some new privilege like staying up later at night, or having friends stay over or watching a different program on television that normally you wouldn’t be allowed to.

When you’re a teenager, you then dream about that magic age when you will be able to drive, or have a boy (girl) friend and maybe even go on a date. Or perhaps there’s the chance of getting an Iphone or computer of your very own.  So growing older is looked at with anticipation.

The next stage of growing older is that time when you have made a decision to get married and/ or choose a career for yourself. Those years kind of creep up on you and you don’t always notice until all of a sudden you realize that you are about to turn thirty. And you wonder what changes you should maybe consider before many more years go by. You don’t want to miss anything that you should maybe be doing with your life. Now when you reach your 40’s or 50’s you’re kind of settled in to what your life is about and the busyness of life keeps your mind from wandering too far. Some go through a mid-life crisis, when they think about what they’ve maybe let slip through their fingers and have some issues that definitely need resolving in order to accept and enjoy what they already have in their life.

When the 60’s happen, it is time to realize that you are now in the ‘retirement’ years. You’re most often not employed any longer and wonder how you will make the most of your life now. It helps, if during the previous years you have taken and interest in a hobby or something that will keep you from just getting bored with having too much time on your hands, and nothing to do. When we retired I must say that I just enjoyed not having to watch the clock during what normally would have been a work week, and all the rushing around  that was entailed with that. Now, speaking about the 60’s,  I must say that I went into retirement earlier than my husband did. I was 47 because I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and went on long-term disability/retirement. So I had quite a few years on my husband. Many or even most of those years however were ones that were very distressing not only because of the M.S. but because of depression (I called the darkness),  which I have written about a few times previously, and so it did not feel like ‘retirement’.

We moved when my husband retired and unfortunately I was still plagued with physical and mental ailments. We managed life for several years under the strain of it. But now, because of God’s grace I am in a very good place in both spheres.  My M.S. has not progressed and I am able to walk still and the depression has lifted after years of it being there on a constant basis. Not that there aren’t physical and cognitive problems but for the most part I am able to live a fairly normal lifestyle. My husband has health concerns also but everything is under control and stable.

And so we come back to the fact that my husband is 70 and I will turn 67 this year, and I need to say, this is one of the best times in our lives.  I have the energy and motivation to volunteer a bit at the hospital, and I blog and read others’ and enjoy it immensely. I believe God led me to both things as I really didn’t have a ‘hobby’ to engross myself in. My husband enjoys household ‘chores’ and puttering around in general, and in the summer loves to do the gardening. We usually take a short vacation in the cold months for a week or two and it breaks up the frigid winter. Next spring we will fore-go this break, as we need to save our money for our special 50th anniversary trip in July to my our chosen destination of Aruba for one week. It’s a place that I just have always thought was the ultimate warm hot vacation place to go. This is our plan….God willing!

So while growing old is fraught with challenges also regarding health issues, it is not a bad place to be! We are quite enjoying our quiet time with each other. We visit our children and grandchildren but we have a ‘safe haven’ to always come home to!

Oh I almost forgot the most important fact…. we are so much wiser!  lol 

Psalm 71 vs 18

Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, O God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your might to all who are to come