Thankfulness Mondays – Half Done – Half to Go

Well, here it is Mondays again, posting about the many things we have in our lives to be thankful for. I’m joining with Bernadette from Haddon Musings and this is week 38 of (52).

Today, I’m thankful for the fact that we have found an apartment to move into. That’s half of what we need to do. The other half is actually the tougher half, and that’s to sell our home.

It’s so strange now, that one has to not only DE clutter but also De personalize one’s home to put it on the market. We not only have to clear anything on top of an appliance or table, or in the bathrooms, and find a place to put it, but also take down all pictures of a personal nature.

Apparently most people looking at homes don’t like to see these things, because they can’t then imagine what it will look like with their personal belongings.  In other words, our house has to appear as though it’s almost not lived in.  Another reason for doing all of this, is that when they take photos, they don’t want any distractions in them. We’re allowed to leave the coffee pot, toaster and can opener in the kitchen, but on separate counters of course, one on each.

It’s a bit hard to hide everything, especially when your husband has a habit of buying paper towel, toilet paper, and other items when they’re on sale, in larger quantities. And we have to hide all the cat’s toys and only have one dish of water and food (if we must); and do we need both printers, one that I have and one in my husband’s office?

Oh, and the coat hooks can’t have anything on them, and the shoe tray mustn’t have any shoes or boots in it, and please remove the table cloth so the wood shows. We can put away only so much and find a place for them, many things out in the shed.

Of course we realize, that they have found that this seems to be better in order to sell, and they’re only trying to help us, but it is a challenge to make our home, feel unlived in.

I am thankful, that we will have a very nice place to move into, and it will be less work outside, and time saved spent driving to do various things like shopping, appointments etc; and we will be closer to one of our son’s should we need him.

Now, if only we could sell in a short span of time! We will have to wait and see.

 

Thankfulness Mondays – ‘Of Like Mind’

Well, it’s Week 37 of (52) joining Bernadette of Haddon Musingsof posts , that look at all things that we have in our lives to be thankful for, from the very small and sometimes incidental to the very significant areas.

I was thinking today of how comforting it is, that my husband and I are of like mind in so many ways. Without fail it seems that one or both of us is thinking or saying something when the other says it first. That song on the car radio, that is playing one that is aggravating, and as you are thinking of changing the station or shutting it off, he does it first. That thought that came into your mind; all of a sudden it comes out of his mouth. Having the same taste in furniture, and places we are looking to move to, and in so many other ways.

It is I suppose, something husbands and wives would do, after living together a long time.

But there are others in our lives;  friends, sisters, brothers who we spend more time with, because we think the same, or feel the same about many things. People who we can relate to, sometimes in a very personal way when something is troubling us. I guess that’s what draws us together in the first place.

It’s not that we don’t sometimes disagree,  or have people in our lives who we can appreciate, but who don’t think the way we do. That would be pretty dull or unrealistic.

However, I believe we have a feeling of validation of our thoughts, ideology, emotions and hurts, when we have relationships with those of ‘like mind’ and I am very thankful today for them/you!

DIANE IN ARUBA

 

 

I was just thinking………

 

Wally and Diane 50 th anniversary

 

………………………………………………………I’ll pull into the next restaurant I see !!!! ❤

Thankfulness Mondays – Little Things Mean a Lot

This is week 36 (of 52) joining Bernadette of Haddon Musings posting of things around us to be thankful for, and to appreciate; things small and large, and to maybe be an influence away from negativity, and toward positivity.

As my husband ‘W’ and I attempt to DE clutter, in order to get ready to put our home up for sale, we’re coming across many items that have survived I believe 12 or 13 moves over what will be in July, 54 years of marriage. Each move had a reason for doing so.

When we married, since we had both moved many times as children, we said we didn’t want to do that. Now here we are planning to move again. When speaking to my daughter this week about this, I noted that at least 4 or 5 of them …maybe 6, were in the same area so our children did not have to change schools often. That’s what was difficult for us as children; starting new schools too many times and being the ‘new kid’.

Anyway, back to sorting things out in order to move, we’re coming across some things that we have to make a decision on. Among them, lots of photos which I sorted through and made packets of some to give to the applicable families. I have some albums which I’ll keep for now; the rest are on our computers.

Then there were books, videos, letters, some special cards, knick knacks, dishes, my mother’s silverware, clothing, etc. etc.

We won’t have the same amount of storage, and so gave a lot away to various thrift stores, and some items to our children and grandchildren. Some we couldn’t give away, because we had emotional ties to them, so our kids will have to decide what to do with those, when the need arises.

What I am thankful for, is that with each thing we look at, it brings with it, memories of times and places, we shared as a family and with friends. While I don’t remember every detail, it did take me back in time and what and who was in our lives then.

I would hope and suppose this will be our last move, because of our ages. We kind of laugh when we say that though. We said it would be our last, many times over.

But I think that this time it will be!

July 1963

July 1963

My husband and I taken in 2015

My husband and I taken in 2015

Thankfulness Mondays – Lessons Learned

This is week 35 of 52 joining with Bernadette of Haddon Musings for reasons large and small to be thankful for in our lives, with the intention of perhaps offsetting the negative aspects of life.

This past week I’ve been at my sister “M” ‘s home, and we were reminiscing our growing up years. She’s 5 years older than I, and not in the best health. but we both had many of the same memories. We thought of our mother, and our other 8 siblings.

We thought about how strong a woman she was, and how we have taken on many of her traits. We thought about the unconditional love she had, but also the way we were raised. The appreciation that we feel, for teaching ‘us’ how to love and to support one another. If one of us is hurting we try to be there. If one of us needs something we try to be there.

There are only 3 of us that are remaining now, and our brother and his wife are going through a difficult time. We went to see them and when leaving, there were tears forming in his eyes; this brother who rarely showed his feelings in such a visible way. His wife has a neurological disease of ‘unknown origin’, that now after many years of deterioration, is waiting for placement in a home, where she can receive 24 hour care. He has tried valiantly for her to remain at home, but it has become impossible to continue.

My sister lost her husband later in July of 2015.

So you may wonder what I have to be thankful for…..  and it is that we were raised by a mother who had compassion, strength, faith, and unconditional love, in order that we might show it to not only our families, but to others as well.

If one has not been the recipient of such love, it is difficult (but not impossible) to give it to others.

Six of us 2015 Brother and His Wife in center

Six of us 2015
Brother and His Wife in center

John 13:34-35New International Version (NIV)

34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

 

Thankfulness Monday ‘early’

In participating with Bernadette of Haddon Musings, I’m doing the post Thankfulness Mondays early,  because I was nominated for the Mystery Blogger award, by Cheri of Joyously Hopeful, who writes beautifully about many things, but especially of children with special needs. She is the mother of a child with autism and does so,to encourage and inform others  about autism.

Although I don’t participate in the award process, I do acknowledge and am thankful to Cheri for the nomination.

While I don’t actually take part anymore the questions she was asking the nominees, got me thinking so I thought I would answer them, in a post

Note….After doing the first one, I realize I can’t do all of them in one post, as it would be too long, I  will do the others at a later date.
  1. What is a cause that is worth dedicating your life to?
  2. What’s your “Back in my day, we…”?
  3. If coffee was illegal, what would its street name be?
  4. What movie title best describes your life?
  5. Which way should toilet paper hang, over or under?

1.  I can say that I have a personal cause or goal for my life, and one for outside my own world. The personal one is to encourage and perhaps have some influence in my grandchildren and great-grandchild’s life. My desire for them is to realize what the most important things in life are; to love and support ‘unconditionally’  their family,  especially during difficult times when it’s not so easy to do, and to care and have compassion for everyone.

 My hope  and prayer also, is that they will want God to be an important part in the years ahead, in all that they do 

6 of our grandchildren

6 of our grandchildren

The other cause that has been part of me, and impacts me is the plight of those in other parts of the world, or even in our own country who are without hope or justice. Those who don’t have even the basic necessities of life. I worked for many years for a Christian non-profit organization World Vision, and it gave me joy to be a part of helping in some way. We still participate in sponsoring a child and their community.

I’ll leave it there….oh except I think I will answer #5… ‘under’ of course; it’s the only way to go !   ha!

Thankfulness Mondays – The Age of Communication

Well here it is week 33 (of 52) joining with Bernadette of Haddon Musings, of thing to be thankful for large and small in our world, to offset the negative ones, hoping that “we can move to higher and better place” (quote unquote).

These last few (or many really) years, media has become so advanced. I’m thankful for the good aspects of it

Think of all the ways we can connect to one another. There’s blogging of course that first comes to mind with my computer; and  Facebook being the second, on a limited basis for me. Of course emailing and then, the cell phones which can be used for the obvious phoning, but also texting and connecting to the internet.

We have the ability, if we so choose, which I haven’t; and that’s + tweeting, Instagram, and Skyping, and so many more. I choose not to do  them though,, because for me it’s much too much. I have the IPhone really to communicate more easily with my children and grandchildren, and to have a camera always on hand if I have an opportunity to take a picture at any time, . Occasionally my 8 year old great-granddaughter uses Facetime to call me, but sometimes I’ve even disconnected with her by mistake, in using it.

All the ways we have can of course be abused in using, most commonly I’m referring to bullying, scams, stalking, spreading rumors, and then just the addiction factor. Some are walking around constantly using these electronic devices oblivious to the people around them.

I am thankful though for some of the choices that I have, and though I don’t use many of the available fancy ‘apps’ that are available, it’s very convenient if I’m waiting for that particular and important call, to be able to be reached with the mobile phone.

So even if these new ways of communicating are  sometimes an intrusive, unwelcome or unwanted  way for some, it can be helpful  and embraced by others, sometimes though to an extreme degree. .

 

 

Reflections From the Past – but I Left Them Behind

In preparation for selling our home in the April, my husband ‘W’ and I have been trying to de-clutter all that we can, as we’re going into an apartment. In doing so we found some things that are from a long time ago, causing ‘reflections from the past.

Now my belief is, that really one should basically not  look into the past too much especially at the worrisome or difficult times. But in having to clear some of it to decide what to throw out, I read a bit of the notes from cognitive therapy I had done and also some writings from a couple of journals. I didn’t read a lot of it but enough to take me back in time to the last period of depression that I had suffered.

We also were deciding what VHS tapes to discard, and so watched a couple not knowing what was on them. There wasn’t anything bad in them, but one was of a cruise we took during another of my ‘episodes’ of depression. We went with his two brothers and their wives, and it reminded me of how little I enjoyed that ‘what should have been’, wonderful vacations. I didn’t recognize most of what ‘W’s  brother had video-taped. I spent so much time by myself, lying down and sleeping so much.  I don’t think I ever went up to the top deck, where the pool was.

I suppose we thought that the cruise would brighten my spirits, but instead it seemed to intensify them.

If you have suffered from this ‘darkness’ of mind and spirit, you’ll know that sometimes good and nice things, or people laughing and having fun make you feel worse.

Anyway, I didn’t stay in the negative zone too long, just long enough for a few tears. I shredded all the material, dried my tears, and left it all behind.

I never want to revisit that place, where at times I could not see any hope or way to feel joy again. It is in the past and will remain there……

I looked into the past for awhile, but only to find out how far I have come!