How many of us, when we’re greeted with, “Hi how are you?”… feel the need to simply say, “Fine thanks!”
For me it’s a split second decision I make. Is this just a quick greeting, and I will give the expected response, or do I think that perhaps the person really does want to know how I am? I must admit that my first thought is to say… “fine thanks”.
If it is not a quick and passing comment, but in a conversation someone asks that question…. then again I have to think before I respond. My fear is that I will be considered to be complaining or asking for sympathy if I actually do share with them, how I really am. I also watch very closely if what I’m saying is ‘too much information’. There is of course the consideration that has to be taken into account; that the person who you’re speaking to someone that you want to share certain personal information with? That may give you the answer right off the bat… “fine thanks!’
I’m very conscious when I ask that question, that the person is aware, that I really do want to know!
Sometimes I think that I’m too self-conscious about this, and wonder if others think about it as much as I do.
So, having said all that, I really want to know; “How are you?”