Recently I had the occasion of feeling ‘subtle disapproval’ from someone, the reason in this case a television program that I mentioned I watched. I then thought of some other times in my life I have felt this, for various reasons.
There’s maybe those decisions that you have made, and someone who you’re speaking to, listens and nods, but really doesn’t offer any positive feedback. They don’t say that you’ve made a mistake; nonetheless you ‘feel’ the words unspoken.
Sometimes you buy that absolutely perfect dress or outfit and can’t wait to show it to someone and you can tell from their reaction that they don’t think it’s so perfect. All of a sudden you decide you should take another look at it and think that maybe it isn’t so great after all. It makes you look fat or the color isn’t right.
Christians are just as prone to silent or subtle disapproval as well, not only to perhaps non-Christians but to other Christians too. I have been on both sides …the recipient and the giver I’m sure. We all have our beliefs and determine what is ‘right’ for us to do or say etc; but when we decide that others are definitely wrong and we are right, we fall into the trap of ‘subtle disapproval’ and if we don’t watch out the next thought could be that of being judgmental.
I’ve learned to accept and not compare myself, but sometimes when I feel those ‘vibes’ toward something I said or did my first instinct is that I need to defend myself. Fortunately now those thoughts don’t last long because I’m secure for the most part in what I decide for my life. If I am wrong then it’s between me and God, but not anyone else.
I think we need to be so careful in how we react to others, because it can cause hurt and doubt in themselves, and it even rob them of joy …….when they feel the subtle or silent disapproval sent their way