What Love is Not….

1 Corinthians 13

New International Version (NIV)

…..It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It occurred to me again this week, that the above scripture in its entirety  is one of the most known ones. It is read many times at weddings and is referred to often as the epitome of what love is but also what love is not.


We know that we don’t live up to what it is of course, because we’re not perfect.  But it was just a ..to use a known talk show host’s sayings… ‘a light-bulb moment’, this week when I will admit to one of the ‘not’s’ …. ‘envy’.  We just moved the end of October to a Mobile home which is what we decided we wanted as the other choice was an apartment. Since we are in late 60’s for me and early 70’s for my husband we wanted to lower our debt load and so opted out of buying another house and were happy with our choice and wanted to be closer to family and so made the move.

So this week I go for the first time to a Bible Study group that is in the complex next to us. For me this was a big step because having depression for so many years I stayed away from groups of people but because my friend who I mentioned previously from 20 years ago, happens to live in this other complex, she told me of this group that met every other week and asked me if I wanted to join. With some hesitation I will admit because of what I just said, I agreed to go.

My first thought after entering the house of this lovely Christian woman, was not .…oh I am so excited to be here, but instead oh what a beautiful home she has and yes I said …to myself...in comparison to what we have.

I didn’t dwell on it at the time, and was happy that I had decided to go, but it bothered me to the point that I mentioned it to my husband, that I had these feelings of ‘envy’. Somehow all my joy was wiped out at the decision we made, and seeing our family more often, and liking where we were living, and watching the birds out our living room window at the feeders….and all that we had….just because I was envious of the prettier and bigger home that I had been in.

That’s how sneakily the things that are not right to think or do…creep into our thoughts. I’m not for one minute saying that other ‘not’s’ don’t as well…daily or weekly or whenever, but it was one of those times I just became more aware of it. That’s how fast our joy can be taken away if we let our minds dwell on them.

It helped to talk about it and not keep it inside, because I regained my perspective. There will always be those that have more and many that have much less than what we do, but we need to be content and grateful with what we have and who we are.

I will try in the future to remember this moment and accept that though I am not perfect, I am a work in progress.

And I will start my day with another well-known scripture verse….

Psalm 118 vs 24  “This is the day the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”

19 thoughts on “What Love is Not….

  1. I love this 🙂
    I find that often I get envious of things other people have. Then I realise, I was fine without it when I didn’t know it existed! And that it won’t make me happy! xxx


  2. I somehow feel “envy” is not negative in the way jealousy is-its more like “I wish I had it” unlike,”why does he/she have it-I deserve it more-it should be mine” kinds-if u know what I mean:-)And the fact that u realized it & talked about it-& accepted it is fantastic!Yes,being content is the key to happiness-we have saying in Hindi(our National language)which means,once you beget the wealth of contentment,all other wealth is like dust:-)


        • I have written quite a few in one year…but sometimes I lay off for awhile…There’s so many …I’m sure you can’t begin to read them all. I wrote some in the few months of starting of my time in my life when depression was a big part….but thanks to God and a good doctor and prayer…I am free from it now…Thanks for reading so many…Diane


          • Diane,am glad that you are doing so much better-being ill is no fun & if one is burdened by depression,its the pits am sure-am glad God held your hand & led you out of it:-)I will read all your posts by & by-its such a diverse world out there in the blog-o-sphere ,that its difficult not to get sucked in-i get distracted easily & i must have read at least 5 diff posts in between reading yours-must be ADHD,lol!


            • That’s so cute…well, I get distracted too sometimes because as you say there are certainly a lot of different kinds of blogging…
              Because I read so many now, it takes a lot of time but being retired…it is easier than some. Even so, if I am busy for a day or two I have a lot to catch up on.

              I will say that when I follow someone I do try to read their blog but if it is beyond where I’m at now or on a subject that I can’t relate to…I may skip it but that is unusual.

              When you haven’t been blogging long it probably seems a bit overwhelming….just ease into it. When I started I didn’t ‘tag’ effectively or frequently forgot and didn’t really get any comments for a few months…but it was okay because I was basically writing for me…and hoping I might eventually connect with a few others…The few others has turned into quite a ‘few’….Sorry for the long response…I know you’ll do well…Diane


              • Oh,i love to read what you write-i mean your response-its like a convo,u kno-love talking,lol!Yes,it is very overwhelming sp so cos i am like a squirrel-running here,there & everywhere-looking for nuts-my kind;-)Am on the net,FB,yahoo,googling.wp,& ofc Trifecta plus playing my fav games-word games & designing-so finally getting only a little done:-)It’s 2a.m here & I have an early morning tomoro-Dentist’s appt plus some chores to do-so will be coming in late-approx 14 hrs or so from now,so its GN from me,tc & have a lovely week((hugs))Its great getting to know a wonderfully warm person like you Diane


  3. The self-awareness and desire to guide inner dialogue and actions is a wonderful gift to self. It is startling how fast a good day or mind set can grow cloudy by a thought, a feeling, a look or phrase we encounter. (Or a bad day to good).


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