Someone wrote a blog on the fact that for them it wasn’t a good day because of the fact their mother was not a ‘good mother’ and the fact that they had wanted children but have not been able to do so.
This got me thinking of others that have a difficult time with Mother’s Day and other holidays.
In the case of Mother’s Day, it can be for reasons stated above. Also there are the women who have not been able to find Mr. Right yet and so have not married, and feel as though they want to before having children.
In some cases there are mothers who for one reason or another cannot be with their children, and so perhaps are missing them and maybe don’t hear from them on this day. It must be really tough for them.
I have a friend who is not married but has tried to have children by invetro and donated sperm, but without success. She wanted so much to experience motherhood, but she is getting older and with that the chance of success dwindles.
Then there are the women who cannot celebrate their own mothers because not only were they not good mothers but abusive as well, and so negative feelings are brought forth with Mother’s Day.
This brings to mind another holiday ‘Valentine’s Day’. I know in particular one dear woman who this pains deeply, because there is not that ‘special person’ yet in her life to celebrate this with. I would imagine there are many women and men like this in the world. The talk of what the special person or love of your life is going to surprise you with and all the advertising that goes along with it, for commercialization.
Christmas is the next holiday which for Christians is the most basic reason for celebrating and most joy is brought by this alone. But for some, all the fuss and fury that goes along with the celebrations, and gift giving and spending time with loved ones, can be a devastating time for many I would think as well. What if there are no loved ones still alive to celebrate this? What if you are in a nursing home and wait for someone in reality or in your memories who is not there to celebrate with? Then it can turn out to be a day of sadness instead of gladness.
So, while it is never going to change the fact that these days come along, we must think of those around us for whom it is not a happy time and try to be cautious and compassionate not to be ‘over zealous’ in our own joy of these days of celebration.
Just some thoughts…..