Because my memory/memories are dwindling, I thought I might write a little about it.
I believe that ‘memory’ begins in the womb. Our brain develops in the womb and memory is a part of that brain, so why not memory? Sensations and feelings felt ….warmth, comfort and nourishment. It has been said, and I think it to be true, that talking to the baby while still in your womb, can be remembered after birth…voice recognition… and the baby responding to the mother’s/father’s voice.
It has also been noted that if a child hears certain music while inside the womb, they will respond to that music after being born. In an extreme case I watched one show where the parent played music on the piano and the child could play that same music when only a small child. That would probably be an extraordinary example and perhaps the child had the makings of a genius.
The memory then continues throughout our childhood years and especially during the first five years being most prominent…I have heard. Think of what a child learns …to talk, to walk and the various other skills that they will need and use throughout their lives. Skills for years of education and all kinds of facts to remember and learn, in order to obtain the career of their choice.
Some of us remember better than others during those years of schooling. I personally found it very difficult to learn from a book, and studying for me was even harder. Perhaps I didn’t enhance those skills when I should have. I know my fellow students seemed to have it much easier than I. Learning for me was always easier when the teacher spoke about the subject and made it interesting in doing so. Some subjects for me came easy such as spelling and reading, but math and social studies..geography and history were to me just memorizing of facts, and I found it very hard.
As we get older they say we lose the ability to learn as we did when younger. I know while in the working world and computers came into being, I found it a very slow process to digest and retain the instructions of how to operate one.
There are those of course who are the exception to the rule…the ones who can write novels, paint beautiful pictures and start new businesses when they are in their 50’s, 60’s and beyond that.
Due to age or disability our memory can and in my case did become more of a struggle. In my case I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when I was 46. For several years before, I had begun to notice that there was more difficulty in remembering details, and in word finding skills. It was almost a relief when I found out there was a reason for having such a problem while only in my 40’s, because I knew that something was not right. I still have trouble in those ways, but also remembering things in our life over the years. My husband will often say, “remember when……” and I will not. It has come to the point now where I have asked him not to use the word ‘remember’ to me, because it is troubling. Alas, he doesn’t ‘remember’ that I asked him that. He remembers everything else ..but that!
I am thankful that during many years I wrote things down on scraps of notepaper and that we have many photos to give me a glimpse into the past. It is comforting. Even if what I wrote was not positive…at least it is a piece of my life.
So while I do not have a great ‘memory’ ….I do have my ‘memories’ ..and then of course I do have my husband to remind me of things forgotten!