One of the things that we say …but do we mean it…is …”My prayers are with you” or “I will pray for you”.
I think our hearts are in the right place and we are truly feeling sorrow for perhaps the health of someone, or the passing of someone, or some sort of situation that a person that we know is facing, but at some point I really stopped in my tracks ..so to speak and I thought…”Am I saying a prayer for that person“? or “Have I done what I said that I would do”? or did I say that to make that person feel better….. and did I feel that by saying I would pray for them...that I had done so?
Does that make sense or am I confusing you?
Now I am very conscious that if I say to a person that I will, or have prayed for them….then I make sure that I have taken whatever time it takes to actually say a prayer.
Another less spiritual example is when children have done something wrong and we give them a consequence for doing so. But then after perhaps saying they are grounded from outside activities other than necessary ones for a certain length of time, or can’t watch television for a period of time….somehow it ends up we don’t follow through. It turns out there is a special movie on that all their friends are going to on Saturday…or there is a favorite program that they ALWAYS watch every week and “can’t they please just watch that one program”? etc etc.
I believe it is essential that when we say something we follow through with it. Otherwise it is just lip service and doesn’t mean what it should.
And in the instances of raising children they will think that consequences really don’t come to fruition, and we all know that is a great fallacy. We need to have constancy and consequences in our lives.