Sticks and Stones……..

“Sticks and stones can break your bones but names can never hurt me”!!

I don’t know how many of you have heard that phrase, but it was a common one when I was growing up. If a child was being taunted by someone, like being called ‘stupid or ugly’ or any number of other mean things, an answer commonly given by the one being unkindly treated, was this phrase. It was supposed to infer that you can call me anything but it won’t matter. That was to supposedly show that you weren’t hurt and so hopefully you would be then left alone.

We all know though, that words do matter. If kind words are said it can encourage, lift up and give a person a feeling of well-being and self-worth.

On the other hand, a harsh or unkind word, can deflate, demean and generally make a person feel down-hearted, embarrassed or worse. Of course we know that in the extreme such as bullying or constant verbal abuse, there can be dire consequences. Mainly today I’m talking about the everyday kind of occurrence that often happens without thought or necessarily an intention to hurt.

Sometimes it can be from someone who loves you, and you know doesn’t mean it. It can be as casual as contradicting you in front of someone else, or of making fun or light of something you said. It can be teasing that while not intending to hurt you, nonetheless does. It can be something said about something you’re wearing or the way your hair looks, again not intending to sound critical but by saying an off-hand comment, can all of a sudden make you doubt yourself. Instead of feeling good, instead you now feel unattractive and deflated.

This not only relates to adults, but to our children as well. Sometimes we think that children don’t take in the times we correct them in public to the extent that it is embarrassing to them. Of course from time to time, in teaching them to be polite etc. we may gently remind them about their ‘please and thank you’ manners, but what I’m talking about is something that makes a child feel humiliated and especially if it is pointed out in front of someone else. Some things are meant to be discussed in private.

I watched in dismay one day in a store, when a small child of about 4 or so, asked her mother to buy something for her. Instead of just saying no to the child, and moving on; the mother started yelling and saying how selfish the child was for asking, and all the reasons she shouldn’t have asked. One might say that she didn’t really mean it, and maybe was just under pressure, and maybe that could have been the case, even though I felt it not to be….. but whatever the reason, I felt so sorry for that little one looking and listening to her ‘mommy’, and not understanding why she was so upset.

I think that we forget that some people are perhaps sensitive, and may even be insecure in some areas of their life, and to try and just remember, ‘words can and do hurt'; and to attempt to catch ourselves before we ever utter any that could crush a person’s spirit…!

Forgiveness though I must add is a wonderful trait, and we do need to try and do so, and children for the most part are very forgiving too, especially to ‘mommy and daddy’ !

 

What Not to Brush Your Teeth With…..

When I pack for a trip, I try to pack as few bags that I can putting multiple items together as I can, hence causing some confusion sometimes. This was one of those times.

For several days when brushing my teeth, I thought that the ‘travel toothpaste’ had likely gone bad, since our last trip and leaving it in the plastic zipped bag. I continued however to use it, without checking another tube that was in the same bag. I should mention that I did not have my glasses on at the time. I rinsed my mouth well, but thought that I really should use the other tube. There was actually 3 small tubes in the same bag, but being in a hurry and not taking time, I just left it for the next time.

Unfortunately the next time was a few days later, continuing with the bad tasting tooth paste, until today that is. This time I had my glasses on, and when I picked up the tube I noticed an ‘H’ on it. Looking more closely I saw the words “Preparation H”. I’m not sure if you all will know what that is and if you don’t, ask me and we’ll get to the bottom of it……

It seems I packed this tube, and put it in the same small bag, to save using another one.

At least it gave us all a good laugh, and I learned a good lesson for the next time I pack.

Daily Post – The Happy Wanderer

Prompt: What’s your travel style? Are you itinerary and schedule driven, needing to have every step mapped out in advance or are you content to arrive without a plan and let happenstance be your guide?

As I sit here writing this post I am at Myrtle Beach, South Carolina on what appears to be a rainy day, so thought I’d take a few minutes as I have my tea.

We have pretty well always ‘mapped out’ most details in advance. Maybe it’s because most of our travelling has been done either during the time we did so with children, and so really needed to be sure of where we would be staying and if the accommodations would be suitable. The other times we have traveled we still make plans, because sometimes there are conventions or activities that are happening at the place we are travelling to, that affects the choice or availability of places to stay.

While we usually plan how many miles we are going to try and drive each day, we don’t book the hotel there, in case we aren’t able to make it that far. This particular trip however, we planned to stop at a certain city but when we got there, there was not a room to be had because of two different things going on there. One was a cheer-leading contest and also Nascar (car racing) was there.  So while we intending on stopping for the day at around 6-6:30 pm; we ended up driving until 8 pm or so. Needless to say we were tired, hungry and a bit cranky. We stopped for gas at a station and we were all exhausted especially my husband and my sister, as they were doing the driving. We had to take two cars because of course all the paraphernalia that seems to go with one as we get older. While the cars were being filled, I said a little prayer and asked God for a place to spend the night.

When we looked around, there was a small hotel nearby, so we thought we would check ‘just in case';  and lo and behold there were rooms available. While it was not in the best condition, it did have a clean bed and a restaurant attached to it. There was no dissent among us that we would be staying the night there, after all the thing we needed first and foremost was some place to lie down and just sleep.

The next morning we were on our way, and thankful for the night’s rest.

I Think It’s Fixed

I’m ‘cautiously optimistic’ as that saying goes, that the technical problem with commenting and ‘liking’ on my posts, has somehow cleared up. If a person commented through the ‘Reader’ it seemed to work, but those who don’t use the Reader, and tried just on my site, were the ones who had the difficulty.

I haven’t heard from WordPress so I’m not sure how it’s cleared, but then I don’t know what caused it in the first place either.

If anyone does have further problems, please let me know.

Otherwise, I guess I’ll chalk it up to another one of those mysterious things in ‘blogosphere”.

By the way, my husband and my sister and her husband, reached Myrtle Beach last night (Sunday) around 6 pm. The ocean is so beautiful, and the weather is sunny and warm, and it is just so nice to have time together. I also had my procedure (gastroscopy) last Thursday before we left. The doctor that did it, was really good and took time to talk to me. Thanks for the prayer said on my behalf, over the past several months.

Diane……………

PROBLEM ON MY BLOG

I was advised by a fellow blogger that she could not leave a comment because it was ‘blocked’. She nor I know why this has happened.

Also when I checked my email notifications I have not received anything all day re likes, comments or posts by others I follow or who follow me.

I have gone to WordPress and asked them to check and see what’s happened, but in the meantime thought I’d let you know. Perhaps it will clear itself…. but I wouldn’t count on  it. I’ll let you know if it does.

As some of you know, I am travelling right now so didn’t know about this until tonight when I went to check. I will also be travelling for several hours tomorrow, and hopefully it will be cleared up when I look online later tomorrow. 

Diane

This morning 26/4 at 8am (blog was written around 12 am last night.  I have received some ‘likes and notifications this morning but no comments yet…. If someone could leave a comment I would know whether or not I get it in my email… Thanks  Diane

We’re Headed South !

My husband and I are headed south, with my sister and her husband, on Friday. We’re driving to Myrtle Beach, which I guess is not too far south, but far enough for some warmer weather, sun, and the beautiful ocean.

It’s also a must-needed change from all of the health issues over the winter, and time to spend with two very special people in our lives. One doesn’t ever know for sure what lays ahead, especially when we are all in our senior years, so we have to take time to ‘smell the roses’.

I’m thankful that we are able to go away, as I know not everyone can these days. It’s only today really, that I’ve actually started to pack. Normally I would have started a week ago, but with everything going on, it kind of crept up on me.

Anyway, though I’ll be checking in every now and again I will be kind of scarce for the next three weeks, in case you notice.

I’ve put a few paintings that I’ve done recently… I realize they can be improved on, but thought I’d add them anyway. The two cats belong to my sister and her husband. The other one I guess is pretty evident.

Daily Post – Four Stars –

Prompt:  Write a review of your life — or the life of someone close to you — as if it were a movie or a book.

To quote partially Charles Dickens, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times …………… “

Born almost 70 years ago into a somewhat dysfunctional family, the last of 10 children to a mother who loved fiercely and yet unconditionally, and to a man who shouldn’t have been a father, but was! His addiction to alcohol and other vices over-rode the desire to be content within the family unit, and just couldn’t be the ‘daddy’ who would hold his children, and let them know he loved them. Perhaps he did, as much as was possible for him to do, but sadly his children could not understand. Our mother made the difference in our lives, and of course our faith.

My journey into adulthood was fraught with some insecurities and a sense that I was different from other children and families. I could not really envision my future, and yet even though I couldn’t, God could. As scripture reveals in Jeremiah 29:11 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Indeed my future included, being married to a wonderful man and having three beautiful children and then 9 grandchildren and even a great-grandchild.

The road however was not always smooth; there were many bumps in it and detours along the way. There was sadness, depression, health and relationship issues.

Ahhh,  but there was joy beyond measure, there was an abundance of love, there was healing, there were reconciliations, there was the realization that whatever happened in my life, had a purpose and it brought me to the point where I am today. Without any part of it I wouldn’t be who I am, or have the blessings in my life that I have.

I believe that most of us have the best of times and the worst of times; it’s what we learn along the way and to use that knowledge to help others with similar struggles, and maybe… just maybe… make their road and path a little easier.

 

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